There is the lost art of keeping issues or differences of opinion between ourselves and not revealing those private conversations. When you gossip about personal matters between yourself and others, everyone will learn that you can’t keep a secret and you will never live down the shame of not being trusted.
“The Corporate impulse for human uniformity instills shame at difference and, thus, the contemporary zeal for privacy.” – John Perry Barlow
No public character has ever stood the revelation of private utterance and correspondence. –Lord Acton
Sell publicly and buy privately. – Spanish proverb
You don’t want to dig too deeply into the personal life of other people either. Respect the privacy of others. To avoid inadvertently touching on a sensitive spot, instead of asking someone about something, volunteer that information about yourself. A person who is comfortable talking about the same thing will typically offer up their own experience in turn. If they don’t respond in kind, change the subject.
You almost never get the pleasure of seeing that you won the argument in real time. People just don’t like to publicly change their minds. They change their minds in private. – Sam Harris